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Like You Mean It

‘Like You Mean It’ is a very delicate film IMO. Two wonderful people, growing apart in their intimacy and love for each other; is presented very somberly in this film. Yes, this makes the film painfully slow and repetitive but still that provides the audience a chance to connect with the character and try to get in his mind as to why he is doing what he is doing.

Mark and Jonah look like your typical happily monogamous gay couple. Although happy, we see that Mark is increasingly unhappy and frustrated with all the demeaning auditions that he has been giving. He also feels diminishing passion for his musician boyfriend Jonah. Jonah realizes there is an issue but Mark never opens up to him. Since, Jonah is happy, very much in love, and caring; Mark feels maybe its his problem and suggests couple’s therapy. But once in therapy, he continues to resist any exercises or methods that therapist suggests. We also find that he takes anti-depressants. Also we don’t know much about his background. His sister constantly calls him but he never returns calls even when his father dies. Ultimately, Mark confesses to not being in love anymore with Jonah and they break up. Months later, they meet at a friends wedding and this is when for the first time Mark apologizes to Jonah for everything that he did to him.

As I mentioned earlier, the film is simple but quite repetitive. There are multiple scenes of Mark practicing his audition, giving auditions and getting his car cleaned. Long shots of hi lost in thought and unsure of what he wants from life. Yes, he knows the passion with Jonah is missing and he tries to bring back passion using alcohol and drinks, but that doesn’t work either. Mark is confused and unsure of what he wants from life. Clearly there is a strained relationship that Mark shares with his family back in Austria but we never find out the details. Mark, who also happens to be the producer/director of the film , is in every single frame. It gets tiresome watching such a cold, self-absorbed and self-destructive character continuously. It would have been really good to see Jonah’s point of view as well, because he just became a mute spectator in all this without any say in everything. A tiny hint of emotion only comes towards the end when the two guys meet but its to late in the game. Despite all this, I liked the film (minus the slow pace). You do feel for the character because of brilliant acting by both Mark and Jonah. Jonah is extremely good looking with a very infectious smile. Someone that you would love to take home to your mother.

I think, if more thought and planning went into the project, this could have easily taken the route of ‘Weekend’. In fact, if same actors were used, it could have been a brilliant sequel. The former was about 2 people coming together and this one is about a gay couple’s failing relationships. Pretty good but it quite didn’t reach there. (6.5/10)

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ILHiker said…
I rewatched this one tonight. I remember liking it but not loving it the first time, despite the fact that I'm so pleased to see portrayals of mental illness on the screen. This time, I thought it was a better movie than I remembered, but I still didn't love it. I thought it was a good portrayal of depression in the character of Mark, but everything was too closely identified with him to give some space to enjoy the movie. I thought Jonah was a good character but he didn't really get a chance to have his own story. I think the portrayal of clinical depression was very good--the discontinuing of medication, relapse, loss of pleasure, inability to connect, the sort of denial/disconnection of what's going on in one's life, the difficulty finding and staying on the right med. I just felt to closed in to Mark's experience to have some room to breathe and enjoy it as a drama.

I did a search for a review and realized it was a book and not a movie, lol. I read Don't Trust the Cut this weekend. For some odd reason I thought it was going to be a skateboarder rom-com, but it was a portrayal of a young man with some serious psychiatric issues. It was a real page turner and did not gloss over the sometimes devastating impact of mental illness on a person and on the people around him. I'm too old for binge-reading. My eyes were sore looking at the computer screen at work today.
Golu said…
Mental Illness and depression is such a real thing and it is sad that even in today's time, a lot of people don't take this seriously.

Interesting info about he book, although I feel like its been forever since I read any book. Maybe time to shake up things a little. lol

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